What were the most interesting ideas you discovered inDigital Nation: Relationships?
Why did these resonate with you?
In the video segment "Hope for my Daughter", the person speaking talks about the reasoning for leaving New York and settling in a small town. He did this in hopes that his daughter will become more in touch with nature, and isn't so dependant on technology. He describes that he would rather have his young daughter walk to school on grass, instead of a subway filled with people and ads all around her. He means well, and wants to give her more attention than he will ever give his work or the internet, in hopes of being an excellent dad, by never letting her see when he's on the web, but in all honestly.. What do you think will happen to his little girl? Do you think she will get bored in a small town? Do you think the move was a right one? Do you think he will eventually introduce her to technology as it is growing fast? What do you think this will do to their relationship? Will she mad at him for holding back a new world she could have always been a part of? I think she may be angry with him in the long run. I'm not sure if this is the right thing for him to do.
I agree. She will not only get bored, but she is being deprived of what the present and future is being based on which is technology. It's also getting more advanced and she will never know how to use any of it. There are always pros and cons to what we do, but by placing her in a bubble, and trying to create a "perfect" environment for her is the answer at all. She needs to know what it's like to see ads, different people' good or bad so she is aware that they are in existence.
I found it interesting how the internet can produce so many relationship outcomes. Children with their parents, friend to friend etc. Internet relationships have pros and cons. The internet can spark and negate how relationships work. Many children have problems sharing the information they put on the internet with their parents. THe mother of the three children has become a sort of dictator constantly worrying about who is "out to get her babies." madison
I found it the relationship segment interesting because I got the perspective of other parents about the internet and Facebook or any social networking site that I would have not known. I never really thought that parents would have a different perspective because I've grown up in the "digital age" and it's something I'm used to. I have quick access to anything I need such as Facebook, Myspace, Email, IM, Video Chat from things that are easily accessed here in the United States. I found the Autumn Edows segment interesting becuase she made her identity completely online yet somehow, it has turned into her real day to day life. Things on the internet are not in some imaginary world, they can become real.
The video with Sara who has an eating disorder disturbed me. Blogs that support eating disorders and other harmful activities should not be online and if they must, have some sorter of age censorship for people that are younger than 18 years old.
Also the video about the middle school boy who went onto a web site to find out how he should kill himself was quite disturbing.
I decided to watch the videos under relationship. My first thought on this topic of the internet was that fact that it gives us freedom and lets us talk to our friends and search for people that we have lost connects with. Listening to that Jessica girl and the parent of her four kids really confused me. Jessica was doing something every dangerous by posting so many picture of her on her myspace. The parent of the four kids was just being a little to up tight. I understand that she is worried about her kids but you really cant expect your kids to be okay with giving there password to her so she cant check it. I still think internet is a good thing and that it does help us in the long run, but as young adults we need to use cautions on what personal information we put up that everyone can see. If someone really wanted to find out who you are they would find a way.
~nina~
I explored the relationship digital nation. I found it interestng that sarah's parents had no idea about her eating disorder, and the internet was the only place she could be herself. Many kids struggle with different stresses and sometimes the internet is the only friend, or person that truly wont judge them becasue they are experiencing the same things. This resonated with me because its scary the lack of knowledge our parents have about our internet lives/ daily lives and how lonely someone can be but find a friend in the internet. -Taylor
The hidden lives the teens have on the websites aren't great, but they are also not the worst. It is bad that they can't tell their parents about their problems, but the teens express themselves and don't keep it bottled in. While it's not the best way to express thier emotions, they are expressing them. This is a step in the right direction because with this the teen can have a better relationship with his/her parent. Take Jessica for example, she was doing her modeling on the internet without her parents knowing. When they found out they made her delete her files, and with time the realtionship between parents and daughter got much better. Same with Sarah, her parents decided to take her to therapy where hopefully she expressed her emotions and feelings. The internet can be a dangerous place, but it can also mend broken relationships. -Edward M
I believe that the internet is a powerful place, and to many it gives them a chance to be who they really are and can be their selfs. I found it interesting that many parents had no idea what their child was doing on the internet and how their child had a second life almost. I feel that most on these kids like Jessica and Sara are just trying to find out who they are and right now maybe confused on how to deal with high school and their lives. I agree with Sara when she said that she can not just quit cold turkey it will be a slow prosses for her getting her life back. Also by see a therapist is the right thing for her to be doing to try to get the help she needs. I don't believe giving your password to your parents will solve everything or even help, but if a childs parent has there password it will give the child a chance to think twice about what they are posting on the internet. -Carla
I think what resonated with me most, is the fact that we can "re-create" ourselves online. It's so troubling, that we can leave expose so many aspects of ourselves, and if we don't like who we are, we can delete ourselves, and slip into something else.That sort of cycle, seems extremely detrimental to our emotional states of being.We leave ourselves unresolved as human beings, blurred.
Yes, we can connect globally, but are we even connected to the people closest to us?
-Is it possible to lead a completely fake life online and maintain a normal one with those around you? It would be extremely hard for one not to get in the way of the other. - ZaneTRushing Feb 22, 2010ZaneTRushing
as affect of life online, relationships have changed drasticly in some way shape or form; whether that be good or bad. these videos showed both the pro and con perspective. i believe that it is possible for relationships to stay healthy even when both have access to the internet. the way relationships become unhealthy (like any other topic) is when the user cannot balance their time wisely. an example of unwise time spent: when a person neglects their daily activities, duties, and loved ones in their life to "get away" from the real world by spending as much time as possible online. find a way to balance your time, such as family dinners. another big pattern that the relationship section talked about was trust. mainly between parents with their children. parents dont realize this, but when they openly distrust their children (even when their children have done nothing wrong) this is when relationships become tense and uncomfortable on both sides. communication is the key, if parents feel uneasy (not about trusting their children, but about the unknown "creepers" online), they need to sit their kids down, and talk with them about what is appropriate and not appropriate to put online. parents will find that their children will mutually agree with the basics.
~rachel cannon~
If parents has their kids' passwords, kids raised in the world of the internet wouldn't feel secure enough to experiment online, or explore. They would also be less likely to be themselves online, and live their entire life in the ever-advancing technological world thinking the way they were raised to think: that their actions are constantly being monitored by a higher authority and it is wrong to explore or express individuality.
Also, allowing parents to access and restrict their children's activities is extremely likely to cause them to go off on a spree of rash behavior and abuse their freedoms once they become adults and are free of supervision. - ZaneTRushing Feb 22, 2010ZaneTRushing
I watched the ‘Relationships’ Section and in the 4 videos, found that the way we interact is being constantly redefined, it is no longer “when I was your age this is how we solved that situation.” How we interact is constantly changed by the internet: the internet is a continuation of the real world, and provides a sort of additional space, privacy, sense of ownership. My topic covered a broad scope, and my only question would be how will internet effect relationships in the future? Will the idea that families don’t communicate as much with the internet involved to distract them be perpetuated to the point that families don’t communicate? Since the modern day family in 2010 changed a lot from say the 80’s, how will family dynamics differ in 2040? - andmey Feb 22, 2010Andmey
I think that it is a good idea if kids give their passwords to parents, but only if they are sealed in an envelope and opened if they get kidnapped or something happens to them. -Stephanie
I watched many of the relationship related viedos and found that for many the internet provides a sort of safety net that can in some ways benefit them and in others harm them.
One girl used the internet to find support for her anorexia from other anorexics which was pretty disturbing. However, Autumn Edows used the intrenet to create a sort of alter ego that helped her self esteem and made her happy.
Relationships between human beings are changing with the use of the internet. Families that are technically together are not really spending time with one another because they are all connected to the web.
Is the internet benefiting human relationships or is it negatively effecting them? Even if parents were to take away technology from their children wouldn't it just be a hindrence to the child because they would grow up behind their peers technology wise? - spuent Feb 22, 2010miamalo
I watched the videos under relationships and thought how the internets allows people freedom, but it also can create problems for them.
Like the Jessica girl who felt rejected at school,but online she was free to do as she pleased. She felt cut of by society so she used the internets as a kind of "escape" from reality to be a goth modle. For her the internets was a benifical thing, while the other girl has the internets feeding her ways to fule her eating disorder. The internets has the ability to work for or against the person using it. It could allow you to have that little escape from reality and be a different person. Or it could be detramental to your wellbeing and cause you the have more problems. It all depends on how you use the internets, if you are looking for bad
stuff you will find it, but if you look for good stuff you will also find it. It is sort of an escape, but only if you want it to be. - xyoruhimex Feb 22, 2010xYoruhimex
For the topic "Digital Nation" I chose the sub topic of relationships nawadays with the strong influence of mass media and the internet.
Watching the related videos I realized that there are many great advantages but also disadvantages for all internet users.
I found it really amazing, that an old grandmother even at the age of 83 still is able to spend time with her grandson
spreading all their ideas all over the world.
Moreover I saw that the way of finding new friends and staying in contact witch them has completely renewed in the last years.
For this reason the older generation is no longer able of telling their children what they would do or how their kids should behave.
Moreover tevryone can invent him/ herself new in the irreal space of the internet, like shown in "The Secret Online Life of Autumn Edows".
But to my mind this is a bad fact, because these persons do not change in the real world and never leave a place or their attetudes physically, so that they get addicted to an irreal world.
In the end though, the internet gives us many great possibilities for relationships all over the planet and it simply depends on us how we use it.
Julien
I thought the video with the Bubbe lady was cool. I think it's interesting that she is so tech savvy at 83. She also talked about being able to connect with people online and how the world is so small now. I think thats true. With everyone only seconds away its easier to stay in touch with people. Helena
Is the internet really connecting us? or helping us to escape loneliness?
I feel that the internet is most defnitely doing both for people. There are just so many sources that are accessable to anyone seeking any kind of information. It's really a scary thing. Especiall after the videos I saw. Young kids and teens are living secret lives, that are unhealthy to their well-being and even caused the suicide of one. In a young boy's case, he wasn't escaping loneliness on the internet, but problems he faced at school followed him home through the internet, so the internet was making it worse in his situation. He was connected to people who were sometimes anonymous, that bullied him constatnly to the point he couldn't handle living anymore. Also in a girl's eating disorder, she looked to the internet to gain support for her ideal of being skinny is beautiful and anything you can do to make yourself really skinny was ok . Her parents still had no idea of what she was doing and she admitted they to them she appeared like a normal teenager. If people can live a life with a mask and then unvail themselves online just so easily, how can these issues ever be resolved? Perhaps it is true, like another video I saw, about how parents should be more concerned with what their own kids view on the internet, that they need to take more control by having our passwords to our facebooks and sites that we visit. But to many, it's an invasion of privacy, and less about the care of our own well-being.
Do you think that the divorce rate is different between people that meet online and those who meet in person?
Interesting Ideas
What were the most interesting ideas you discovered in Digital Nation: Relationships ?Why did these resonate with you?
- In the video segment "Hope for my Daughter", the person speaking talks about the reasoning for leaving New York and settling in a small town. He did this in hopes that his daughter will become more in touch with nature, and isn't so dependant on technology. He describes that he would rather have his young daughter walk to school on grass, instead of a subway filled with people and ads all around her. He means well, and wants to give her more attention than he will ever give his work or the internet, in hopes of being an excellent dad, by never letting her see when he's on the web, but in all honestly.. What do you think will happen to his little girl? Do you think she will get bored in a small town? Do you think the move was a right one? Do you think he will eventually introduce her to technology as it is growing fast? What do you think this will do to their relationship? Will she mad at him for holding back a new world she could have always been a part of? I think she may be angry with him in the long run. I'm not sure if this is the right thing for him to do.
I agree. She will not only get bored, but she is being deprived of what the present and future is being based on which is technology. It's also getting more advanced and she will never know how to use any of it. There are always pros and cons to what we do, but by placing her in a bubble, and trying to create a "perfect" environment for her is the answer at all. She needs to know what it's like to see ads, different people' good or bad so she is aware that they are in existence.I found it interesting how the internet can produce so many relationship outcomes. Children with their parents, friend to friend etc. Internet relationships have pros and cons. The internet can spark and negate how relationships work. Many children have problems sharing the information they put on the internet with their parents. THe mother of the three children has become a sort of dictator constantly worrying about who is "out to get her babies." madison
I decided to watch the videos under relationship. My first thought on this topic of the internet was that fact that it gives us freedom and lets us talk to our friends and search for people that we have lost connects with. Listening to that Jessica girl and the parent of her four kids really confused me. Jessica was doing something every dangerous by posting so many picture of her on her myspace. The parent of the four kids was just being a little to up tight. I understand that she is worried about her kids but you really cant expect your kids to be okay with giving there password to her so she cant check it. I still think internet is a good thing and that it does help us in the long run, but as young adults we need to use cautions on what personal information we put up that everyone can see. If someone really wanted to find out who you are they would find a way.
~nina~
I explored the relationship digital nation. I found it interestng that sarah's parents had no idea about her eating disorder, and the internet was the only place she could be herself. Many kids struggle with different stresses and sometimes the internet is the only friend, or person that truly wont judge them becasue they are experiencing the same things. This resonated with me because its scary the lack of knowledge our parents have about our internet lives/ daily lives and how lonely someone can be but find a friend in the internet. -Taylor
The hidden lives the teens have on the websites aren't great, but they are also not the worst. It is bad that they can't tell their parents about their problems, but the teens express themselves and don't keep it bottled in. While it's not the best way to express thier emotions, they are expressing them. This is a step in the right direction because with this the teen can have a better relationship with his/her parent. Take Jessica for example, she was doing her modeling on the internet without her parents knowing. When they found out they made her delete her files, and with time the realtionship between parents and daughter got much better. Same with Sarah, her parents decided to take her to therapy where hopefully she expressed her emotions and feelings. The internet can be a dangerous place, but it can also mend broken relationships. -Edward M
I believe that the internet is a powerful place, and to many it gives them a chance to be who they really are and can be their selfs. I found it interesting that many parents had no idea what their child was doing on the internet and how their child had a second life almost. I feel that most on these kids like Jessica and Sara are just trying to find out who they are and right now maybe confused on how to deal with high school and their lives. I agree with Sara when she said that she can not just quit cold turkey it will be a slow prosses for her getting her life back. Also by see a therapist is the right thing for her to be doing to try to get the help she needs. I don't believe giving your password to your parents will solve everything or even help, but if a childs parent has there password it will give the child a chance to think twice about what they are posting on the internet. -Carla
I think what resonated with me most, is the fact that we can "re-create" ourselves online. It's so troubling, that we can leave expose so many aspects of ourselves, and if we don't like who we are, we can delete ourselves, and slip into something else.That sort of cycle, seems extremely detrimental to our emotional states of being.We leave ourselves unresolved as human beings, blurred.
Yes, we can connect globally, but are we even connected to the people closest to us?
-Is it possible to lead a completely fake life online and maintain a normal one with those around you? It would be extremely hard for one not to get in the way of the other.
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as affect of life online, relationships have changed drasticly in some way shape or form; whether that be good or bad. these videos showed both the pro and con perspective. i believe that it is possible for relationships to stay healthy even when both have access to the internet. the way relationships become unhealthy (like any other topic) is when the user cannot balance their time wisely. an example of unwise time spent: when a person neglects their daily activities, duties, and loved ones in their life to "get away" from the real world by spending as much time as possible online. find a way to balance your time, such as family dinners. another big pattern that the relationship section talked about was trust. mainly between parents with their children. parents dont realize this, but when they openly distrust their children (even when their children have done nothing wrong) this is when relationships become tense and uncomfortable on both sides. communication is the key, if parents feel uneasy (not about trusting their children, but about the unknown "creepers" online), they need to sit their kids down, and talk with them about what is appropriate and not appropriate to put online. parents will find that their children will mutually agree with the basics.
~rachel cannon~
Questions & Comments
Please pose at least one question and respond to at least one question about Digital Nation: Relationships .Should parents have their kids passwords?
If parents has their kids' passwords, kids raised in the world of the internet wouldn't feel secure enough to experiment online, or explore. They would also be less likely to be themselves online, and live their entire life in the ever-advancing technological world thinking the way they were raised to think: that their actions are constantly being monitored by a higher authority and it is wrong to explore or express individuality.
Also, allowing parents to access and restrict their children's activities is extremely likely to cause them to go off on a spree of rash behavior and abuse their freedoms once they become adults and are free of supervision.
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I watched the ‘Relationships’ Section and in the 4 videos, found that the way we interact is being constantly redefined, it is no longer “when I was your age this is how we solved that situation.” How we interact is constantly changed by the internet: the internet is a continuation of the real world, and provides a sort of additional space, privacy, sense of ownership. My topic covered a broad scope, and my only question would be how will internet effect relationships in the future? Will the idea that families don’t communicate as much with the internet involved to distract them be perpetuated to the point that families don’t communicate? Since the modern day family in 2010 changed a lot from say the 80’s, how will family dynamics differ in 2040?
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I think that it is a good idea if kids give their passwords to parents, but only if they are sealed in an envelope and opened if they get kidnapped or something happens to them. -Stephanie
I watched many of the relationship related viedos and found that for many the internet provides a sort of safety net that can in some ways benefit them and in others harm them.
One girl used the internet to find support for her anorexia from other anorexics which was pretty disturbing. However, Autumn Edows used the intrenet to create a sort of alter ego that helped her self esteem and made her happy.
Relationships between human beings are changing with the use of the internet. Families that are technically together are not really spending time with one another because they are all connected to the web.
Is the internet benefiting human relationships or is it negatively effecting them? Even if parents were to take away technology from their children wouldn't it just be a hindrence to the child because they would grow up behind their peers technology wise?
-
I watched the videos under relationships and thought how the internets allows people freedom, but it also can create problems for them.
Like the Jessica girl who felt rejected at school,but online she was free to do as she pleased. She felt cut of by society so she used the internets as a kind of "escape" from reality to be a goth modle. For her the internets was a benifical thing, while the other girl has the internets feeding her ways to fule her eating disorder. The internets has the ability to work for or against the person using it. It could allow you to have that little escape from reality and be a different person. Or it could be detramental to your wellbeing and cause you the have more problems. It all depends on how you use the internets, if you are looking for bad
stuff you will find it, but if you look for good stuff you will also find it. It is sort of an escape, but only if you want it to be.
-
For the topic "Digital Nation" I chose the sub topic of relationships nawadays with the strong influence of mass media and the internet.
Watching the related videos I realized that there are many great advantages but also disadvantages for all internet users.
I found it really amazing, that an old grandmother even at the age of 83 still is able to spend time with her grandson
spreading all their ideas all over the world.
Moreover I saw that the way of finding new friends and staying in contact witch them has completely renewed in the last years.
For this reason the older generation is no longer able of telling their children what they would do or how their kids should behave.
Moreover tevryone can invent him/ herself new in the irreal space of the internet, like shown in "The Secret Online Life of Autumn Edows".
But to my mind this is a bad fact, because these persons do not change in the real world and never leave a place or their attetudes physically, so that they get addicted to an irreal world.
In the end though, the internet gives us many great possibilities for relationships all over the planet and it simply depends on us how we use it.
Julien
I thought the video with the Bubbe lady was cool. I think it's interesting that she is so tech savvy at 83. She also talked about being able to connect with people online and how the world is so small now. I think thats true. With everyone only seconds away its easier to stay in touch with people. Helena
Is the internet really connecting us? or helping us to escape loneliness?
I feel that the internet is most defnitely doing both for people. There are just so many sources that are accessable to anyone seeking any kind of information. It's really a scary thing. Especiall after the videos I saw. Young kids and teens are living secret lives, that are unhealthy to their well-being and even caused the suicide of one. In a young boy's case, he wasn't escaping loneliness on the internet, but problems he faced at school followed him home through the internet, so the internet was making it worse in his situation. He was connected to people who were sometimes anonymous, that bullied him constatnly to the point he couldn't handle living anymore. Also in a girl's eating disorder, she looked to the internet to gain support for her ideal of being skinny is beautiful and anything you can do to make yourself really skinny was ok . Her parents still had no idea of what she was doing and she admitted they to them she appeared like a normal teenager. If people can live a life with a mask and then unvail themselves online just so easily, how can these issues ever be resolved? Perhaps it is true, like another video I saw, about how parents should be more concerned with what their own kids view on the internet, that they need to take more control by having our passwords to our facebooks and sites that we visit. But to many, it's an invasion of privacy, and less about the care of our own well-being.
Do you think that the divorce rate is different between people that meet online and those who meet in person?